Dating Violence

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
~Thomas Merton

boy and girl hugging

Take away the “i” and there is no relationship.

A healthy relationship reflects the interests of both people.

 Do you…

  • Feel nervous around your partner?
  • Avoid contact with friends because your partner disapproves of them?
  • Feel pressured when it comes to sex or things related to sex?
  • Make excuses to your family or friends for the way your partner is acting?
  • Worry about what you are wearing because your partner may not approve?
  • Feel as though you need to constantly explain your whereabouts to your partner?

If you answered “yes” to some of these questions, you might be in an abusive relationship.

Physical Abuse

  • Pushing
  • Slapping
  • Punching
  • Biting
  • Strangulation

Emotional Abuse

  • Isolation
  • Stalking
  • Threatening suicide
  • Threatening violence
  • Controlling what you wear/who you talk to
  • Verbal abuse (name calling, put downs, hurtful remarks)

Sexual Abuse

  • Rape
  • Unwanted touching
  • “Sexting”

Relationship Warning Signs

  • He/she tells you they can’t live without you.
  • He/she threatens to harm themselves if you break up with them.
  • He/she is jealous and possessive about the time you spend with your friends.
  • He/she is constantly checking up on you, texting you and/or calling you.
  • He/she wants to limit your school activities so you can “be together more.”
  • He/she blames past relationships on everything.
  • He/she treats their parents badly.
  • He/she makes you feel like their needs come before yours.
  • He/she is abusive or aggressive toward objects and animals.
  • He/she calls you names, hits and/or pushes you when they become angry.

You are not alone.

Regardless of age, race, culture or relationship status, domestic violence does not discriminate. It can happen to anyone and there is help available for victims of violence. It is very important to create a safety plan, whether you choose to end the relationship or not.

Dating Violence Fast Facts

1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend who has been abused in their dating relationship.

1 in  3 teens say they are text messaged 10, 20, and 30 times an hour by their partner asking where they are, what they are doing , and who they are with.

1 in 4 teens say they have been called names, harassed, or put down by their partner through cell phones and texting.

Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend has threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up.

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